Are you tired of the same old routine in the bedroom? Are you looking to spice things up and inject some excitement into your love life?
Look no further! In this blog post, we’re sharing 14 new things to try in bed that will take your sex life to a whole new level of satisfaction.
1. Try New Positions
Trying new positions can be an exhilarating and fun way to switch things up when spicing things up in the bedroom. While there are countless different sexual positions out there, it’s important to remember that the key is not necessarily how many you try but rather finding the ones that work best for you and your partner.
Discussing them with your partner beforehand is a great way to start incorporating new positions into your love life. Communication is essential when exploring new territory in the bedroom, so make sure both partners feel comfortable and excited about trying something new.
Once you’ve established that open communication, here are a few suggestions for different positions to try:
1. The Reverse Cowgirl: This position involves the woman straddling her partner while facing away from him. This allows for deeper penetration and also lets both partners have a view of each other’s bodies from a different angle.
2. The Lotus: In this position, both partners sit facing each other with their legs wrapped around each other’s waist. It allows for intimate eye contact and deep penetration.
3. The Standing Wheelbarrow: A more challenging option, this position involves one partner holding the other by their hips while they stand on their hands. It allows for deep penetration and also requires trust and strength between partners.
4. Spooning: A classic cuddling position can also be used as a sexual position by adding some extra movement and rhythm to it. This position allows for slow and gentle lovemaking, with both partners being able to control the depth of penetration.
5. The Octopus: Inspired by Kama Sutra techniques, this position has one partner sitting cross-legged. In contrast, the other sits on top with their legs wrapped around them like an octopus tentacle. It provides maximum skin-to-skin contact and easy access to multiple erogenous zones.
Remember to be open-minded and patient when trying these or any new positions. It may take some practice before finding a position that works for both partners, and that’s okay. The key is to have fun and enjoy exploring new ways to pleasure each other.
2. Keep the Lights On… or Turn them Off
The lighting in our bedroom can be crucial in setting the mood for intimacy. Many couples may find themselves sticking to their usual routine of keeping the lights off during sex, but don’t be afraid to mix things up and experiment with different levels of lighting. Whether you prefer dim mood lighting or keeping it completely dark, both options have benefits that can add excitement to your love life.
Turning off the lights entirely is a safe bet for some couples who feel self-conscious about their bodies. It allows them to relax and focus solely on each other without distractions. However, this lack of visual stimulation can also limit sensory experiences, making things feel predictable and monotonous.
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder – so why not use this concept in the bedroom? Turning off the lights could intensify your sense of touch as you explore each other’s bodies, creating heightened arousal and anticipation.
On the other hand, keeping some form of light can enhance intimacy by stimulating your visual senses. Soft candlelight or fairy lights can create a romantic ambiance that may help you connect with your partner on a deeper level.
It’s also an excellent opportunity to try new positions or experiment with more eye contact if you’ve been shying away from it before. Plus, being able to see each other’s reactions and movements can add an exciting element of voyeurism to your lovemaking.
If neither option seems appealing, consider playing around with different types of lighting, such as colored bulbs, string lights, or even blacklights, for a fun and playful experience. You could take turns choosing themes for your room each time you have sex – whether it’s passionate red hues one night or neon lights another night – it adds a sense of adventure into your sexual encounters.
3. Try Light Bondage
Trying light bondage may be just the thing for you if you’re looking for adventure. Bondage can involve anything from using restraints to incorporating blindfolds and sensory play. Not only can it add a new level of physical pleasure, but it also requires trust and communication with your partner, making the experience even more intimate.
Before engaging in this type of play, having an open conversation with your partner about boundaries and consent is essential. Discuss what you are comfortable with and establish safe words or signals if you become uncomfortable during the activity.
When experimenting with light bondage, there are a few essential items that can enhance the experience. First, having some form of restraint, such as handcuffs or silk ties, can help create that feeling of being entirely at your partner’s mercy. Blindfolds are also popular as they heighten sensory stimulation by removing one sense while increasing others.
Another element is incorporating sensation play. This involves using different textures or sensations on the restrained parts of the body, such as feathers or ice cubes. It adds an element of surprise and anticipation for both partners.
One important thing to keep in mind when trying out light bondage is safety. Make sure any restraints used are not too tight and are easily removable in case of an emergency. Stay away from anything that cuts off circulation or could potentially cause injury.
Beyond the physical aspect, exploring light bondage can also bring emotional benefits to your relationship. Trust is essential in this type of play as one partner willingly gives up control while the other takes charge. This trust-building exercise can strengthen your relationship outside of the bedroom as well.
Remember, the most important thing is to communicate openly with your partner and always prioritize each other’s physical and emotional well-being. With the right boundaries, trust, and communication, light bondage can be a thrilling addition to your love life. So go ahead and try it—you may discover a newfound pleasure between you and your partner.
4. Share Fantasies
Fantasies are an essential part of our sexual lives. They allow us to explore and fulfill our deepest desires safely and consensually.
However, many couples tend to keep their fantasies hidden, fearing judgment or rejection from their partners. This not only hinders their individual sexual exploration but also affects the overall excitement and satisfaction in the relationship.
Sharing your fantasies with your partner can bring a new level of excitement and intimacy into your love life. It allows you to connect deeper, understand each other’s desires, and fulfill them together.
Another important aspect is to be open-minded when listening to your partner’s indulgences. They may be entirely out of your comfort zone but try not to dismiss them immediately. Instead, approach them with curiosity and a willingness to try new things.
Being specific about details can also enhance the fantasy-sharing experience. Share what excites you about a particular scenario or role-play; it will give you more insight into what excites you.
Apart from verbal communication, there are various ways in which you can share fantasies with your partner.
For example:
1) Write down each other’s secret desires anonymously: This exercise can help overcome shyness or hesitation while sharing intimate thoughts face-to-face.
2) Watch erotic movies/ read erotic literature together: These could act as conversation starters for talking about different scenarios that turn both of you on.
3) Create a yes/no/maybe list: Each partner writes down ten things they would like to try in bed under three categories – yes, no, and maybe. Exchange the lists and discuss them to find common interests.
4) Explore your innermost desires through role-play: This is a fun and exciting way to act out each other’s fantasies safely and consensually.
5. Talk Dirty to Me
One exciting and adventurous way to spice up your love life is by talking dirty to your partner. It’s a powerful tool that can ignite passion and excite you and your partner in the bedroom. Many people may shy away from talking dirty due to misconceptions or fear of sounding awkward. Still, with the right approach, it can be an incredibly erotic experience.
Firstly, let go of any inhibitions or preconceived notions about talking dirty. This may feel uncomfortable initially, but remember you are with someone who loves and desires you. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and open-minded, which will help create a deeper connection with your partner.
Starting off slow is critical when experimenting with dirty talk. Begin using simple statements such as “I want you” or “you feel so good.” These phrases are not too extreme and can add an element of arousal without feeling overwhelming. As you become more comfortable, try adding explicit descriptions of what you want your partner to do or how they make you think.
Another important aspect of talking dirty is being specific. Use vivid language to describe what turns you on the most or what you want them to do to you. This adds excitement and helps your partner understand exactly what pleases you.
Paying attention to non-verbal cues from your partner during dirty talk is vital. If they seem uncomfortable or hesitant, slow down and adjust accordingly. Communication is essential in any sexual activity; therefore, constantly check in with each other during the process.
Moreover, incorporating role-playing into dirty talk can add a new intensity and excitement in the bedroom. You can pretend to be someone else or even fantasize about different scenarios together while talking dirty.
However, it’s essential to clarify boundaries beforehand and remember that consent is crucial in any sexual activity involving role-play.
Remember tone and volume when talking dirty. Experiment with different intensity levels and see what feels good for you and your partner. Furthermore, it’s not just about what you say but how you say it.
6. Let’s Get Rough (Just a Bit)
When it comes to spicing up your love life, sometimes you need to let go of inhibitions and try something a little bit rough.
1. Communication is Key
Communication is essential before trying anything new in bed. This is especially crucial when it comes to rough play. It’s important to discuss what you are both comfortable with and set boundaries beforehand. Open and honest communication can ensure that both partners have a safe and enjoyable experience.
2. Light Bondage
Light bondage can add an element of excitement and intensity to your sex life. Use items like scarves or ties as restraints for your partner’s hands or feet. This allows one partner to be in control while the other experiences heightened sensations from being bound. Just remember, always have a safe word in place so either partner can say stop if things get too uncomfortable.
3. Spanking
A classic form of rough play, spanking can bring a whole new level of intensity and pleasure during sex. Before trying this out, talk to your partner about how hard they want to be spanked and where on their body they feel most comfortable being spanked.
4. Hair Pulling
Gently pulling on your partner’s hair can create intense sensations that lead to higher arousal levels for both partners. However, it’s important not to pull too hard or without consent from your partner.
5. Positive Pain
Adding pain as a form of foreplay can heighten the senses and provide an exhilarating rush for both partners involved – as long as there’s open communication between you two! Try giving small bites along your partner’s neck or shoulder while their eyes are closed; it’s unexpected yet thrilling!
6. Talking Dirty
Sometimes, all you need for some good kinky fun is some well-placed dirty talk. By communicating with your partner about your fantasies and desires, you can explore new territories in the bedroom. Use this as an opportunity to try out new language or phrases you may have been too shy to use.
Remember, rough play should always be consensual and practiced with caution. Be sure to check in with each other during and after trying something new to ensure that both partners enjoy the experience. With open communication and trust, rough play can add a thrilling edge to your love life. So go ahead, let’s get just a little bit rough!
7. Food (You’re likely hungry, anyway)
One fun and playful idea is using whipped cream or chocolate sauce as a tasty treat on each other’s bodies. Take turns slowly drizzling it onto sensitive areas like the neck, chest, or thighs and then teasingly licking it off. Combining sweet tastes and ticklish sensations will ignite passion between you and your partner.
If you’re feeling adventurous, consider trying out some aphrodisiac foods known for their arousing properties. These include oysters, figs, avocados, honey, and chili peppers. You can incorporate these ingredients into a meal beforehand or use them during intimate moments in bed.
For those who enjoy dominance play in their sexual dynamics, incorporating food can add an extra layer of control and submission. Blindfold your partner and feed them small bites of food with your hands, or have them eat directly from your mouth for added intimacy.
Food can also be used as a unique tool for sensation play during BDSM sessions. Hot wax candles infused with scents like vanilla or cinnamon can create pleasurable pain sensations when dripped onto the skin in controlled amounts.
So, if you’re hungry for new thrills in the bedroom, don’t be afraid to let go and swallow some tasty treats. Bon appétit!
8. Anal Play
When most people think of anal sex, they believe that only gay men want to do it. It’s not supposed to be liked by women, and certainly not by straight men.
But the numbers tell a different story.
According to the National Institutes of Health research, 43% of men and 37% of women have engaged in anal sex at least once.
There are two mistakes people often make before engaging a partner in anal;
See if YOU like it first. Integrating anal play into masturbation and experimenting for the first time with no pressure and time to experiment is the best way to find out if you like it. Afterward, you can tell your partner you’re interested in trying it out together if you enjoy it.
Lube, lube and more lube. You need to make sure you have a ton of lube on hand, as the anus does not self-lube. If you think you have enough lube on hand, add more. Lubrication is essential, preferably a long-lasting, viscous lubricant.
Remember, a penis in the anus is something you work up to very gently. Take your time. Check-in with your partner often. A better idea than going directly at it with a penis is to try smaller toys like butt plugs, slim dildoes, and the like before you get to the main event.
Only toys with flared bases are safe to use as butt plugs if they are not designed for anal play. In addition to costly and embarrassing visits to the emergency room, non-flared dildos or objects that are not meant for sexual insertion can get lost inside the rectum and cause internal damage. Yikes!
9. Watch Each Other Masturbate
Many people feel furtive and secretive about their masturbation, habits acquired in adolescence while living with their parents.
We’ve come a long way from hiding under the sheets in the family home and beating one out.
And somewhat surprisingly, there are studies that have demonstrated that some find masturbation more gratifying.
That could be because we don’t have to focus on anybody but ourselves.
So, it can be a great idea to turn masturbation into a non-solo activity.
It’s also an opportunity to learn how your partner really enjoys being touched. No one knows this better than them, so pay attention!
Try to reproduce that touch with your hands during the next hands-on session and see what happens.
Plus, watching each other masturbate is excellent for those who enjoy voyeurism and exhibitionism and who want to watch and be watched!
10. Dress Up in a Fantasy
One of the most exciting things to try in bed is dressing up and role-playing a fantasy with your partner. This can add a new level of excitement and intimacy to your love life as you explore different personas and characters with each other.
To start, discuss with your partner what fantasies you both have and which one you would like to try out. It could be anything from being a sexy nurse or doctor to a seductive maid or even playing out a scene from your favorite movie or book. Once you have chosen your roles, it’s time to get creative with costumes and props.
Head to a costume shop or look for items around the house that fit your fantasy role. Remember, it doesn’t have to be perfect; it should be something that helps set the mood and makes you feel like you’re living out your fantasy.
Once everything is set up, it’s time for the fun part – acting out your fantasies! Take on your character’s persona and let yourself get swept away in the moment. Let go of inhibitions and embrace this new side of yourself while exploring different desires with your partner.
Role-playing also opens opportunities for more communication between partners about what they want and enjoy in bed. You can take turns fulfilling each other’s fantasies, making sure that both parties are delighted.
Not only does dressing up in fantasy spice things up in terms of physical pleasure, but it also adds an element of emotional connection as well. Seeing your partner express their deepest desires can bring you closer and strengthen your bond.
However, it’s essential always to keep consent at the forefront when trying out role-playing scenarios. Ensure both partners feel comfortable with the chosen fantasy before proceeding, listen to each other’s boundaries, and always respect them.
Dressing up in a fantasy brings excitement, creativity, and intimacy to your love life. It’s a fun and playful way to explore each other’s desires and bring back the passion into your relationship. So let your imagination run wild – who knows what hidden desires you may discover within each other.
11. Get Off the Bed and Try Other Furniture
One piece of furniture that often gets overlooked when it comes to intimacy is the couch or sofa. This versatile piece of furniture can change scenery, allowing for more exploration and flexibility during lovemaking.
The armrests can serve as supports or props for different positions. At the same time, the cushions can be used for added cushioning or height. Additionally, you could incorporate some role-playing by pretending to meet at a bar or restaurant before taking things back home to the couch.
The floor is another underutilized space when it comes to intimacy. Whether it’s a plush rug or soft carpeting, laying down a comfortable surface on the floor opens up endless possibilities for new positions and sensations. You could also use pillows or blankets to create a cozy nook for intimate moments with your partner.
If you have a sturdy desk or table in your room, why not use it? Not only does it provide extra support and stability, but it also allows for deeper penetration in certain positions. Clear any items from the surface before using it, and maybe even lay down a towel for protection.
For those feeling adventurous, incorporating swings or suspension equipment into their love life could add an entirely new level of excitement. These unique pieces of furniture allow you and your partner to experiment with weightlessness and different angles that are impossible on traditional surfaces.
Last, do not underestimate the potential of standing up against a wall during intimate moments. This position allows for deep penetration while utilizing different muscle groups than those typically used during horizontal lovemaking.
12. Sex Toys
In recent years, there has been a surge in the use and acceptance of sex toys in the bedroom. These devices are designed to enhance sexual pleasure and intimacy and can be used by individuals or couples. If you’re looking to add some spice to your love life, incorporating sex toys into your playtime could be just the thing you need.
There is a wide variety of sex toys available on the market, catering to different preferences and levels of experience. From vibrators to dildos, anal plugs to handcuffs, there is something for everyone. However, open and honest conversation with your partner about boundaries and consent is essential before diving into trying any new toy.
One popular type of sex toy for women is the vibrator. Whether used alone or with a partner, vibrators can provide intense pleasure through clitoral stimulation. They come in various shapes, sizes, and functionalities, such as bullet vibes or wand massagers. Experimenting with different types of vibrators can help you find one that works best.
For couples who want to explore new sensations together, trying out a couple’s toy, like a wearable vibrator or cock ring, can be exciting. These are explicitly designed for mutual pleasure during intercourse and can enhance both partners’ sensations.
Another type of sex toy that has gained popularity in recent years is BDSM equipment such as handcuffs, blindfolds, whips, and restraints. Engaging in some light bondage play with your partner can bring a new level of excitement and trust into your relationship while also allowing for power dynamics exploration.
Aside from physical stimulation, toys like dildos and butt plugs also cater to inner desires such as role-playing fantasies or prostate stimulation for men, which can lead to euphoric orgasms.
Lastly, tailored kits are also available on the market, containing multiple items that cater to specific tastes; this way, you could try out several devices that appeal to you at once. Whether it’s a beginner’s bondage kit or a couples’ sex toy set, these kits provide an affordable and convenient way to explore various options without breaking the bank.
13. Have Sex in Public
Having sex in public can be an exhilarating experience for couples looking to spice up their love life. The thrill of possibly getting caught, combined with the intense passion and spontaneity, makes it a popular choice among many adventurous couples.
One of the critical factors that make having sex in public so exciting is the element of risk. Knowing that you could potentially get caught adds a sense of danger and excitement to the experience. This added adrenaline rush can heighten arousal levels and intensify sexual pleasure.
Another advantage of having sex in public is the novelty factor. Being in a new, unfamiliar environment can awaken your senses and make even routine actions feel more exhilarating. This can add new excitement to your intimate moments with your partner.
But before jumping into this daring activity, there are some essential things to consider. First and foremost, make sure that it is legal to have sex in public at the location you choose. Engaging in any sexual activity in public places where it’s prohibited could result in severe consequences.
It’s also important to respect other people’s boundaries and privacy while engaging in this act. Choose a secluded spot where you won’t disturb others or attract unwanted attention from passersby. Opt for nighttime when fewer people are around, or try out remote locations such as deserted beaches or hiking trails.
When done correctly, having sex in public can bring a whole new level of intimacy between partners by creating shared memories filled with excitement and adventure. It’s important to note, however, that not everyone may enjoy this type of sexual activity, so always respect your partner’s boundaries and never pressure them into doing something they are not comfortable with.
14. Invite Others into the Bedroom
Exploring our sexual desires and boundaries with our partners can be immensely satisfying. Still, there may come a time when you both feel like spicing things up even more. That’s where inviting others into the bedroom can add a new dimension to your love life.
Before we dive in, it’s essential to establish clear communication and trust with your partner before bringing anyone else into your intimate space. This should be a mutual decision that both parties are comfortable with and have discussed openly.
Once you’ve made the decision to invite someone else, here are some ways to make it an exciting and fulfilling experience:
1. Talk about it beforehand: Before inviting anyone else into your bedroom, have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what you want to experience together. Set boundaries, discuss expectations, and ensure everyone is on the same page.
2. Consider a threesome: A threesome is one of the most common ways couples invite others into their bedroom. It involves three consenting adults engaging in sexual activities together. Finding someone willing to respect boundaries and prioritize pleasure for all involved parties is essential.
3. Explore role-playing: Role-playing is a fun way for couples to introduce new people (imaginary or real) into their bedroom without physically involving another person. You could pretend to be strangers meeting at a bar or act out different scenarios that turn you on.
4. Try swinging: If an open relationship is something you and your partner have been considering, swinging might be worth exploring. This may involve swapping partners or participating in group sex with other like-minded individuals or couples.
5. Attend sex parties or clubs: If you’re not quite ready for full-on participation in group sex, going as an observer can still be exciting and eye-opening for both of you.
Remember that bringing someone else into your bedroom doesn’t always necessarily mean physical involvement – sometimes, just talking about fantasies or watching other couples can be a thrilling experience.
On the flip side, it’s essential to establish boundaries and respect each other’s comfort levels. If one of you feels uncomfortable at any point, it’s crucial to communicate and stop the activity immediately.
Inviting others into the bedroom can add new excitement and pleasure to your love life if done with mutual trust, communication, and respect. Ensure you both are on board and have established boundaries before embarking on this adventure together.
